He loves me not - tips on how not to care
Diane Whiteside
Issue date: 10/26/09 Section: Features
Breakups are never easy for most people. Just like the R.E.M. song says: "Everybody Hurts." And when it is your time to be sad, it's always a matter of, "How can I go on?"
Before looking at the "how" aspect, however, you should first focus on the point that you can and will indeed actually be able to "go on." Flowers will still grow, traffic will still be jammed and you will still go on living and breathing while the days pass by. And days pass quickly, so don't waste your time being sad and salty.
Here are some tips to getting over your ex:
Accept the fact that it's over.
As much as you can fanaticize about your ex showing up at the airport terminal just as you're about to board the plane, stop you from leaving and profess his love for you, that only happens in movies.
Closure is good. If you feel the need to give the ex an earful or tell him - not show him you love him - one last time, get it out.
Weeding out. Sit down and sort through things around the house. Get rid of anything and everything that may remind you of your ex. Make two separate piles: 1) Things you can sell to make some quick cash. 2) Things for the burn box.
Grab some booze (as long as you're of age), a couple of your homies, and get to torching the sentimentals you can't make any money off of.
Cut off. As much as you're going to miss your best friend and lover, you can not be friends at this time. This will not have to be forever, but if you truly want to do what is easiest and best for your self, as much as possible, keep your distance. Even texting, calling, or any other communication is not a good idea at this time.
Drunk-dialing/texting your ex makes you look pathetic, don't do it.
Allow a day or two to lie around, eat whatever you want and shed tears.
Even if you do still care, pretend like you don't. This will probably bother your ex.
As for gooey gossip and fragile feelings, say what you have to say, and then stop talking about it. If you constantly talk about your ex, he/she will always be on your mind. And stalking them on Facebook will only make you angry, jealous and creepy.
Before looking at the "how" aspect, however, you should first focus on the point that you can and will indeed actually be able to "go on." Flowers will still grow, traffic will still be jammed and you will still go on living and breathing while the days pass by. And days pass quickly, so don't waste your time being sad and salty.
Here are some tips to getting over your ex:
Accept the fact that it's over.
As much as you can fanaticize about your ex showing up at the airport terminal just as you're about to board the plane, stop you from leaving and profess his love for you, that only happens in movies.
Closure is good. If you feel the need to give the ex an earful or tell him - not show him you love him - one last time, get it out.
Weeding out. Sit down and sort through things around the house. Get rid of anything and everything that may remind you of your ex. Make two separate piles: 1) Things you can sell to make some quick cash. 2) Things for the burn box.
Grab some booze (as long as you're of age), a couple of your homies, and get to torching the sentimentals you can't make any money off of.
Cut off. As much as you're going to miss your best friend and lover, you can not be friends at this time. This will not have to be forever, but if you truly want to do what is easiest and best for your self, as much as possible, keep your distance. Even texting, calling, or any other communication is not a good idea at this time.
Drunk-dialing/texting your ex makes you look pathetic, don't do it.
Allow a day or two to lie around, eat whatever you want and shed tears.
Even if you do still care, pretend like you don't. This will probably bother your ex.
As for gooey gossip and fragile feelings, say what you have to say, and then stop talking about it. If you constantly talk about your ex, he/she will always be on your mind. And stalking them on Facebook will only make you angry, jealous and creepy.
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